The author is Lori Gottlieb, who famously, yes, famously, penned Marry Him! for the Atlantic magazine in March 2008. The key insight: Hunting for a mate customized to a long list of expectations (cut abs, dark hair, smart, funny, millionaire, nice dog, sports only in moderation, no smelly feet) will doom young women to a forever state of disappointment until such time as she is too old and saggy to be deemed marriage material.
“My advice is this: Settle!” cried the exclamatory Ms. Gottlieb in the Atlantic. “That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection. Don’t nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling `Bravo!’ in movie theatres.”
The author calls it re-educating women in their 20s to seek substance over superficiality. I know there are plenty of comments running around that brain of yours: both men and women, married or single. Insert comment below.